“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi
When events occur in your life, big or small, do you find yourself fearing the change that comes with them? Does something die inside you when you hear your best friend is moving to another state? Does your heart pound when you hear the news that someone is getting married? That is all NORMAL! 🙂 It is so normal to fear “the unknown”! Wouldn’t it be nice if we could just know when big things are about to happen? We’d always know how much time to spend with our loved ones before they died, we’d cherish every moment we had of our own life, etc., etc. We’d never have to worry another day in our life! However, “the unknown”, is something special! If you always knew every surprise event that was about to take place in your life, you would probably get bored. You’d realize that your Mom embarrassing you on your birthday at school wouldn’t be nearly as fun if you knew she was already there! 😉 Or your future loved one would no longer be that fun mystery… ❤ My point is, change is okay! Yes, change can be scary, other times painful, but most of the time it’s for the BEST! We must change in order to grow! Changing is a part of growing! Try to keep an open mind to these suggestions/tips: 🙂
1.) You cannot change anyone else. Only they can change themselves! However, you can ALWAYS tell someone (kindly of course 🙂 ) how you feel! You just never know who you might impact! Maybe they never change, maybe they keep acting the way they do, but it doesn’t mean you failed at trying to teach them something, it just means they didn’t change the way you would have liked them to! If someone truly cares about how you feel, they will find a way to make their actions right!
2.) Remember that change is inevitable or in other words, it’s bound to happen so don’t try to stop the changing process from happening! We all go through different times in our life where sometimes we change A LOT and at other times we’ll notice we hardly change at all! It’s just being human 🙂 There is NOTHING wrong with who you are, so embrace yourself! ❤
3.) Keep in mind that while you may not feel you are changing, the world around you is in constant change and it can be easy to get lost in it. When you feel like life is speeding ahead, remember that everyone grows at their own pace! Life is not a race or competition!!!! You can change as fast or as slow as you want! 🙂 The only person you will ever truly be in competition with is yourself! ❤
4.) I think this quote by Franklin D. Roosevelt could possibly pertain to change as well. He said, “The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Maybe think about change not as an enemy but more as a friend…. Thank change for getting you out of your awkward puberty days! 🙂 **insert hysterical laughing here**
5.) Last, but certainly not least! Never rush your changing! We are always in such a hurry to just grow up and be done growing but the hard reality is, you are never done changing! You will keep changing the rest of your life so while you’re here and living try to embrace your changing world! ❤
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself [or herself].” -Leo Tolstoy