“Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.” ~Princess Diana
Do you have someone you expect a lot out of? Maybe it is your best friend, a teacher, or a college professor? Not all of the time, but MOST of the time, I find we expect most from our family members or the people we are closest to! They’re the ones we live with, tell everything to, cry with, laugh with, and they are also the ones we probably argue with more often than less because we know that the love our family and loved ones have for us is unconditional. When our loved ones and family don’t meet the expectations that we expect them to, it can create some discomfort.
As hard as it may be, I think lowering our expectations can be beneficial. But not all expectation, if we didn’t have expectations, there would be no goals, no reasons to strive for getting better! Expectation is important, we just have limit how much of it we put on one person. Expectation comes with learning to balance it all out. Yes, people will let you down a lot, but those same people who let you down and push your buttons, are also the ones that cheer you on, love you unconditionally, and are the ones who will help you strive to be your best! You see what I mean? It’s really all about finding a healthy balance, an in between place where you are happy and your loved ones are happy too! 🙂
Remember to do and say a couple of these things often or when you can and have the time:
- Say, “I’m truly sorry.” when you make a mistake or judge someone too harshly. Saying sorry relieves some of the pain caused, and allows the tension to settle a little bit.
- Tell your loved ones that you are proud of them! 🙂 We all need to feel appreciated for what we do! 🙂
- Tell the people you are closest to that you love them! ❤ Express how much they mean to you! When the unexpected happens, we want to end on the best terms possible!
- Encourage the ones you care about! It’s not always easy to be our best, as “weird” as that may sound… Being your best takes effort and we all need encouragement to keep going!! 🙂
- Show your excitements!! When someone achieves something big, show them just how excited you are for them!! 🙂
So, from me, to you! I want to tell you that I am truly sorry for all that has happened that has caused you pain, remember that you are very loved and very appreciated by all who know you and who still have yet to meet the amazing person you are, I encourage you to keep being your best positive self, and I am so excited to see what life has in store for you!!! Your Life Matters!!! 🙂
“We must rediscover the distinction between hope and expectation.” ~Ivan Illich